At 52 peri-menopause started to seep into my life, and at first I did my utmost to just ignore it. My logic being: if I didn’t address menopause then I couldn’t be in it, right?!
It took a day-long menopause yoga workshop with a small group of fellow mid-life women to start to accept the changes AND do so on my own terms.
There is nothing “inevitable” about how you feel about this stage of life, and as always, there is room for nuance, embracing the challenges as well as the relief (and excitement) that you can create your own way going forward.
Mid-life IS a time of big change, not just on a physical level but definitely emotionally too…
The ways you’ve always coped in life no longer feel like effective strategies, and you’re beginning to see them for what they are – coping mechanisms.
(To be honest they were probably developed a long time ago, when you didn’t have the resources or perspectives that you do now, so it’s not surprising they are no longer working).
It is completely understandable that your sense of self feels to be on shaky ground. In mid-life your self-concept is re-forming as you adapt to and make peace with the changes it brings.